It's not easy to be in a relationship, especially when the other person is toxic. It can feel like you're walking on eggshells all the time, and that your partner never has anything good to say about you. When at least one of the partners in the relationship causes significant discomfort to the couple and does not share mutual care and respect, it supposes a situation of psychological vulnerability for the other person. That's when we talk about a "toxic" relationship - which can have serious consequences on our health if left unchecked.
It's toxic when your partner is not willing to negotiate and you cannot have a healthy discussion about something. You feel trapped, powerless or helpless in this relationship - which can lead to depression and anxiety if the pattern continues over time. In these cases, it may be time for you to reevaluate how much longer you want this toxic person in your life.
Here are some tips on what to do next:
- Set boundaries with them (do not let toxic people invade your personal space)
- Do not try too hard; stop trying to please toxic people all the time! It will only make things worse for yourself
- Talk with someone about how you're feeling (for example, talk with friends or family) - sometimes we need a soundboard to comprehend what is going on
- Do not stay in the same room with toxic people if you feel attacked; leave and come back later when you're calmer to talk about it (if that's an option)
- Try your best to keep toxic relationships out of social media or work environments. Toxic people will 'blow up' on others around them, which could lead to bigger problems for everyone involved
If this all sounds like too much...try brainstorming what makes a person toxic. What are some traits someone may have who acts toxic? You can then try figuring out how these traits affect their partner - do they make them anxious, depressed or upset? If so, then perhaps this is time for that relationship to be over! Or for you to seek the help of a couples counsellor.